Sunday, September 4, 2011

Negative Words







I have learned through the years, the value and enormity of the words I use. I know that while I can apologize if I speak before thinking, and later regret it, that never uttering those offensive words in the first place is always wiser. And having the propensity as a passionate person to speak quickly and reactively, I find I must really gauge my feelings before I issue words in their place. You see, when you speak your truth in the heat of a passionate moment, especially where negative emotions are involved, you are likely to regret those words at some later time. This is because negative feelings can beget very negative words, and while in the moment they may reflect the depth of our anger or sorrow, after time and retrospect they can leave one feeling lowly, hollow, or anguished. And additionally, what you focus on will fill your sight; so if you focus on the negative within you, you will surely begin to see more negative, and more negative... and so on.


So why speak words you'll later regret? Why let a moment's ire take you out of your sense of center and thus express yourself in a disgusting fashion? If you wouldn't say something in your best mood, then don't say it in your worst. 


There is always a way to express yourself with dignity, spiritual balance, and truth, while still allowing yourself to be honest within your feelings. If you are sad, or angered, you can think on your words, and take time to reflect on just how you'd like to express yourself, rather than going on a tangent and saying things you won't later be able to take back.


When you issue words of anger to someone else, you do so with the intent of hurting them, or leveling the playing ground, and yet what you essentially do is lower your own vibration. This is because your energy is like a fluid etheric thing which easily rises and falls based on how you are focusing yourself, and where you are directing your thoughts and emotions. When you speak your feelings and thoughts you amplify your energy, making it more concrete. So you can see, if you speak uplifting words, positively, with the intent to share and spread love and compassion, your energy will uplift and you will raise yourself upwards in spirit and mind. And conversely, when you speak angry words, judgmental words in the heat of an emotional moment, your energy will dive, lowering you, making you less resistant to your own negativity. And as you know, like attracts like. 


So when you are centered and focused on your peace and balance, you will attract peaceful and balanced energies and experiences.


When you allow yourself to become imbalanced through negativity you will draw your negativity in your life, through your energy.


So choose your words wisely. When you feel anger or sorrow or judgment rise within you, take a deep breath inwards, and ponder your words before you speak them. There is nothing so pressing that needs to be said right NOW - you can take a moment to really search yourself. Ask yourself "why do I feel this way?" and also ask "what good comes of me speaking angrily?"


Learn how to express yourself with authentic and honest truth, and yet in a gracious and humble way. Our society has mashed our ways of expressing ourselves, with treachery such as "political correctness" which has taught us to say nasty things in pleasant ways. This isn't authentic or positive, it is simply deceptive. So examine the way you express yourself, and then be mindful.


The only person responsible for your own words and energy is you my friend. No matter what someone "does to" you or makes you feel like, the words you issue forth are yours and yours alone. Speak to others with patience and kindness, and you will be amazed at how much patience and kindness you begin to invite into your life.


Words can be weapons or gateways to understanding, it is up to you to choose which serves you best.










No comments :

Post a Comment

Your feedback is always welcome; please be constructive